One mother’s story of what happened to her daughter
By ITV staff
The last thing Mary and her husband expected when her daughter Kate left for a private college in a mid-size American city (pseudonyms are used to protect the family) was that Kate would begin “identifying” as a male by the end of her freshman year.
Kate had been a normal, “gender-conforming” girl all through her Catholic grammar school and public junior high and high school years. She was a top student and tutored peers at school. She was active, and got along well with her siblings of both sexes and her mostly female friends. She had typically female interests. She liked boys.
And she was raised with her siblings in a practicing Catholic family. “Weekly Mass, CCD (while attending public school), summer attending or (in later years) volunteering for Vacation Bible School, family prayers at bedtime as a child, prayer before dinner, etc. were the norm in our household,” explained Mary.
“I suspect our daughter/family would be nothing like what people imagine ‘trans’ kids and their families to be like. Her relationships with both parents I would describe as strong, her teachers found her mature, she bonded with her siblings, etc. Sure, there were the normal disagreements and such, but nothing out of the ordinary.”
Kate began to experience distrust of the Catholic Church around Confirmation age, although she continued to attend weekly Mass with her family. She felt strongly about social inequities, and the clerical abuse scandal, playing out locally, increased her estrangement from her faith.
“I figured in time her choices might be better informed as she matured,” said her mother.
FILLING THE HOLE LEFT BY LOST FAITH
“I failed to recognize that the hole that was left by a faith disregarded might be replaced by something quite awful when bad actors are actively recruiting to fill these holes. When that something is the ‘trans’ cult, it is like watching a horror show unfold upon your child. Then there is no time left to come to a fuller understanding of themselves and the world.”
Kate had taken an interest in feminism in high school. “I had done so as well in my youth,” says Mary, “so I was not so much worried by this. I had no idea that ‘sex positivity’ and ‘trans inclusivity’ were now the norm in feminist circles. I made assumptions that as her life progressed, feminism would mean to her what it means to me – to be a strong woman of faith.”
By late high school, Kate had many friends in the LGBT sphere. Her parents were wary of this but, Mary says, “at the time we were unaware that the transgender wave was building and unaware of the strange psychological manipulations being played in culture. The concept of ‘reverse misogyny’ is clearly evident now, but before her bizarre role reversal, we could have never fathomed the things that came to pass.”
In retrospect, Mary now recognizes that the “transgender moment” had been exposing itself among the general public with the occasional magazine cover, but she was unaware how much “trans” material young people were in fact seeing — largely on the internet.
“Looking back, we were quite naïve,” she says, “but really could not even fathom that college students (let alone young children) were being prescribed cross-sex hormones.”
“Even if someone had pulled me aside in those years and explained it, I am not so sure I would have worried my kid might get caught up in it.”
Sadly, this is exactly what happened to Mary’s daughter in her freshman year of college.
PUSHED OVER THE EDGE AT COLLEGE
By the end of that first school year, Kate was on male hormonal drugs and contemplating surgery to remove her breasts. “The campus harbored her and her friends egged her on,” Mary says.
“Things progressed very rapidly. I spent several sleepless nights immediately after learning about what our daughter was thinking. After speaking with a couple of concerned therapists who were among the few voices of concern at that time, I was expecting the worst — and my fears were realized.
“It was just months later that we learned our daughter’s breasts had been surgically removed,” says Mary.
Kate ended up quitting college and currently lives and works a job as a man.
What was it about the college milieu that seemed to push Kate over the edge of the “trans” cliff so quickly?
“The influences on campuses are vast,” explains Mary, “but peers played a strong role initially. We know many females on campus used underarm testosterone patches. The packaging comes with warnings of the harmful effects possible to other people in proximity to the user – particularly to women and children. How does this affect roommates in dorms, where I know it is used?”
But Mary’s anger and frustration are particularly directed against the college itself — and most colleges, she says, because they are all held in what she calls “institutional capture”; the administration of most colleges, she maintains, is solidly in the grip of the “trans” movement.
“We really do not know what exactly happened on campus to our daughter but, although peers seemed to play a role in her initial capture by the movement, peers alone could never have caused the tragedies that were soon to unfold.
“Our daughter’s college and most others have all the fixings to inculcate confusion and edge students into the bizarre world of transgender identities. Safe spaces, LGBTQ-friendly everything, clothing swaps where the carefully picked-out outfits a daughter (or son) once loved could be traded in for an opposite-sex peer’s possessions, campus clinics with cross-sex hormone-happy practitioners, ties to nearby clinics for further body manipulations, and everything in between, are routine features of more college campuses than not.
“I would also caution parents that just like the abortion pill, cross-sex hormones are easily accessible not just on campus but from Planned Parenthood and online,” warns Mary.
“I believe the college was the one thing that could have stopped Kate’s trajectory,” Mary believes. Instead, the school summoned security guards when she attempted to visit her daughter on campus. School administrators had no sympathy: “One even had the gall to tell me, ‘Sometimes a child does not have the same moral compass as their parents.’
“It is the college’s moral compass that is plain broken. Sadly, I believe this to be true of most colleges today.”
Colleges In the Grip of a “Corporate-Fascist Agenda”
It’s not only the “trans” movement’s hold on campuses that has soured Mary on the idea of college today. She is the veteran of yet another college battle, one that followed on the heels of her experience with the “trans” juggernaut.
“Not long after our ‘trans’ tragedy,” she goes on to relate, “we had other children in college while another medical scandal was brewing: the COVID injection, which is also built upon shaky ground.
“We had to work hard to convince our children that the narratives their own universities were telling them were flat-out lies. We had to fight for religious exemptions. At the core, I do not believe most universities can be trusted. They are certainly not acting ‘in loco parentis’ in any way. Young people have been maimed for life and some have lost their lives. Both the ‘trans’ and COVID injection tragedies were 100% avoidable if colleges were doing their jobs.
“Honestly,” she says, “colleges have succumbed to the corporate/fascist agenda that is now the United States. Today, I would consider only the Newman Schools and a couple others like, perhaps, Hillsdale College. The more prestigious Catholic universities are no better than their secular counterparts. Despite whatever positive things they do, they have crossed the line with the tolerance of gender ideology and are, ultimately, causing harm to their students.
“Even if a child does not personally believe in gender ideology and never adopts a strange identity, a horrible campus culture still supports this: ‘Gender 101’ classes, pronoun requirements, inter-sex dorms, etc. In law and medicine, students are taught that doing actual harm is ‘medicine’ and that lies can constitute legality.
“Does anybody really want their kids at these places and do they really want to pay for this madness?”
(To be continued in the next issue of ITV)